It’s come to my attention that there are some misconceptions floating around, specifically in regards to my wife, our relationship, and my transition. Tl;dr? She’s amazing and understanding, supports whatever decision I make, and will continue to be so and do so whatever that decision is.
I’ve tried in vain thumbing through my archives the last couple days to find an essay I wrote for a writing class 14 years ago. It chronicled over half a dozen distinct moments when I’d questioned or confirmed my gender and/or sexuality. I read it out loud to my classmates, who were super accepting (Santa Cruz does get some things right). For the record, coming out shows up on privilege checklists – cishets never face coming out at all; I’ve done it a couple dozen times.
Hi everyone. I’m a transgender woman.
This is not a surprise to most people who’ve known me 8+ years. I was much more open about it then. I think I’m going to frame this post like a question/answer. Which may be awkward, so I’ll drop any TMI stuff at the end, with a warning. Some of these questions are things you should never ask a trans person, unless they volunteer the information. Basically, think of it this way. If you have a question in mind, and you would think it tremendously rude to ask of a cisgender person, don’t ask it of a trans person. Continue reading
So yesterday was Father’s Day, right? Right. Had a decent day – got an enjoyable breakfast at Biscuits, grabbed new shoes, and dropped by our FLGS to see if I was interested in anything. Of course… I’m interested in pretty much everything, but who has that kind of budget? Wrath of Ashardalon? Game of Thrones LCG? Lots of options, but not the most free time. So I grabbed a dish of static grass (which looks badass on the figure I used it on, btw) and FFG’s Edge of the Empire Beginner Game.
This started as a ridiculously long aside to my main post today.
I started in 1995 with AD&D 2e. Didn’t play much, didn’t play the modules. But had tons of fun with my HS buddies, and got introduced to tabletop RPG. Turns out I’d been playing a one-player variant for years, in the form of Lone Wolf and Fighting Fantasy books.